Shine on you crazy diamond III

[Denver_2010]

I listened quietly. I said nothing. I did not try to fix the problems. ... I noticed something. The less I said, the more she talked.

FOBD - Just read about your evening. Nicely done man. I think that this is a big step. You showed your W love without expectation of reciprocation. Unconditional love. Anyone would be crazy to turn away from such love as it is very rare. Continue to show her this.

I want to comment on the part of your post that I quoted above bc I have wanted to write about this myself for about a week.

Over the past several weeks while I have been seeing my W on a consistent basis, I have also noticed this. I think all LBH need to practice this bc our lack of doing this during our M/R with our Ws is, most likely, a big reason that we are here. I have focused on just listening to my W over the past several weeks. Not offering solutions, trying to fix things, or offering opinions. For the first time in my entire R with my W, I realize just how much she has to say! It was tonight that I actually was thinking to myself, 'wow, W has so much to say about her life and I never knew it'.

I plan to write more about this on my own thread, but I found it interesting that you noticed the same thing with your W tonight.

Again... nicely done FOBD.

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Denver