Rewriting History--does real history return?

[AntoniaB]

Look, do not give him the power to rewrite YOUR history.

The one thing you can hold on to is that your good memories are true. NO ONE CAN TAKE THEM AWAY from you.

I think a ton of rationalization goes on in these sitchs and you need to not believe it.

If any of it helps you realize problems you had/contributed to the marriage problems, then great. But in the end, they are looking for someone/somthing to blame; you aren't to blame, nor is "the marriage."