"She still denies it. And you have proof. Concrete proof?"
"Concrete" that is 10" thick.. no. 5".. yes. Yes, still says it "never" happened.
The "Never" happened is what I have an issue with. How do I get over that simple thought of.. "it" did? To me it would be so much simpler if she just said.. "Yes I did.. What now?"
Yes, she would have to answer questions. They may be uncomfortable. But.. if she still says "No" this is working on a deal breaker for me.
"I want to know Forrest, when you 'busted' the divorce what did you do?"
The things I post about here Jack. I became more attractive. I dropped the rope and said if she wants out.. let her go. The choices she was making were very clearly not something that would "fulfill" her desires. I took the approach of.. If I am that "bad" she deserves something better. I researched my options for a D. I had papers written up. I looked for things that I was doing wrong. And I stopped doing those things. It was not rocket science.
"When the divorce stopped, what happened?"
Well.. looking back.. things went to poop. On the surface of it.. I stopped being the person that I described above. I became the person that I am describing now. I just can't really define where I went wrong. I don't understand the "emotional" side of things. This is very likely the reason women here respond to my posts. They "hear" the other side. My goal was not to hurt her.. but my inaction implied that. What is confusing is that my inaction was received well when we were not together. I am not.. in RL or "Here" an emotional or verbal person. I can apply "Emotion" here simply because it comes to me in a format I can digest. RL.. not so much.
"Ultimately, you know as well as any old timer here that if a poster has to be drug kicking and screaming to advice or help it's an exercise in futility, in almost every case."
I don't think I am kicking or screaming. I assure you that your efforts are not futile. In saying that.. I am not your typical newbie. I know the basics. I am looking for the "Advanced Training". Again.. to be clear.. I am still at home. I am still married. I have not made any plans that would move me away. I am on the fence. Or, one foot out the door. Expect I will weigh the options.
"When the LBS has nothing to give anymore. You know that. When you choose to stop it."
I am still posting.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
