Thanks Sandi, that actually makes A LOT more sense to me right now.

I am very aware of the "best of both worlds" right now. I have decided to book another DB coaching session for next week to talk about that. It was discussed a lot in our last meeting and the coach still thought I should just remain friendly and give my W time for her feelings for OM to fizzle. Not that they will go away, just that the initial chemical reaction part of a new relationship will begin to fade at some point.

I can't completely complain about where this approach has gotten me, I don't do it enough, but when I think back to how she interacted with me at the beginning, the hate, the devil eyes, etc, to the way it is now, it is a huge change. Now I need to see if it might be time to change direction a bit.

I just don't know if there is anything I can do on my end to make her feelings for OM to change, or if it really just comes down to a big waiting game.

The good part is, at least the waiting has become A LOT easier. I still have moments that aren't the best, but I am also able to have a lot of fun again. TBH, I could probably use more time to improve if she ever does has a change of heart.

Thanks again Sandi, your advice on this board is always top notch.


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