Caught up on your sitch. Wow! You are really strong and very smart. Seems like H needs space and time to get out of the fog. I read My Husband'S Affair Became The Best Thing That Ever Happened To Me by Anne Bercht. She maintains that it takes a good 2 months at least (after no contact with OW) for the fog to even begin to lift.
In my case OW left mid October and I am just now seeing my H open up more and more with more insight, reflection, and truth telling. He too has been saying things like he doesn't deserve me etc. He also had the insight that I'm the only person who never left him.
I'm much more emotional than you are. You are a great model and inspiration. I look forward to watching the progress.
MZ
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
