No, not right now. I was mostly talking about the LL of gift giving and how most women feel about the "little things".
In reviewing your thread, it seems that your W is experiencing the best of both worlds. Wait up about buying her anything for a while. It is my belief that a WAW in an A must feel some sort of loss in her life in order to make a change in her direction.
At first, it appeared that it was to your advantage that the two of you maintained a good friendship in spite of her her A with OM. But after you mentioned that she is happy-go-lucky with how things stand.....I think you need to pull back some more. She has tested your love for her, but has her love been tested? Apparently, she doesn't think she has anything to worry about. She has two men who want her!
It will be a while, I'm thinking, before you will be at the point of gift giving, but when that time comes, you'll know how to talk to her in her LL.
(hugs)
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
