Thank you so much for reposting the response from True. It really does make a difference when I take responsibility for myself and when I evaluate my actions instead of trying to decipher his.
Funny thing happened this evening. He texted to let me know that his tax return was taken by the state for back child support. He had a job for about 5 months this year and only recently restarted his unemployment. So, he complains about losing his car because he doesn't have enough left over after they take the support. So I suggest that he contact the office to see if they can lower his monthly amount and he tells me it's a bad idea. Then I suggest he contact the car place and see if he can trade in for a less expensive car (he got it through one of those places that give anyone with a job a car) and he tells me that they don't do things like that. Then he drops his request... he says "or you can give me the $1000 back when you get it and tell them you want to stop it." I reply, so you're asking me to pay you back the child support? He drops it and says never mind but once it's paid off call them and stop it.
The last one was him saying that it's fair that I not only get the earned income credit and a huge return but i get his too because he was unemployed and still getting charged child support so I get his taxes now too...
How do I respond to this? I haven't said anything to him about the last comment. What do I make of this? He is so resentful... it's like it's my fault that I've been employed all year and have had full custody of the kids (because he lives 45 minutes away with his parents) and he couldn't legally claim one of them. How is this my fault?
Me 34 H 37 M 12/97 H moved out 03/09 D 05/10 S 17 D 12 S 11
