WAW tearing up our family part II

[OnMyWay]

ironMan, I've reread your post again, and I think it's time for some tough brotherly lover here:

I do know my anger has shown though. And W pouts like a child about it.

A child .... is the best way to describe her lately.

Stop letting your anger show through. You want her to act different, be different yourself. Be the change you want in your R. Time to stop blaming her for everything. Time to man up an look deep within yourself, brother. This is not all her fault, and you know it. Unfortunately, reality is a b!tch.

I go back and forth between "She must be hurting badly to think this is a better choice" ....... and then I go to "I can't even respect a woman who would do this to her family .... and I don't want somebody like that for the rest of my life. I deserve better"

Yes, you do deserve better, but like it or not you have to accept you've had a definitive hand in the way things are in your M. So, if you want better, be better. How you might ask? Start by going first and do it because it is the right thing to do, while expect nothing in return. If she thinks leaving is a better choice, then you need to step up and prove her wrong by your action, not by your judgement or your anger.

You are a man in a tight spot. You are a BITS. We are all in this together. I believe it is my responsibility to tell you to man up and do the right thing for your family regardless of what your W does. Put you ego aside and choose to be a man, a husband, and a father. I'm here to help keep you straight, because I believe you do deserve better. And you will get it. Stay focused.