Turned a corner

[verysad2day]

my plan???? I hope would to remain calm and no contact. Go dark, very dark.

[JustStunned]

You don't know he is moving. Your intuition tells you he is.

I do not discount intuition. I knew before I walked in W had moved out.

Stewing in the feelings does not serve you.

IMO he already knew you were angry and gamed played to provoke a response.

It is pointless to speculate how far back you have been set if at all.

Breathe, try and detach, take stock of the sitch when you get home. Then you can determine what to do next

[sandi2]

How did things go last night?

[verysad2day]

thanks for asking. Not Good!!! He came home last, as I expected. I was already mad at the world. He came in, got his dinner and jumped on the lap top. I said "really??? You just got home." He slammed it closed and said something about not paying the bills any longer. I asked him not to yell at me as it is not acceptable. I then went to bed.

This morning was good. We were nice to each other. As I was leaving for work I threw some "trash" away to straighten up a bit. I was in my car when H came out and, as his usual, asked Why I threw his check away. He was annoyed. I appoligized and drove off. I did notice 3 more boxes in his truck. Today might be moving day. It will be a long8 hours before I get home.

[verysad2day]

I am having a physically sick day like I have never had. Almost like a panic attack. Something just isn't right, I can feel it in my bones. I can barely see straight.

[verysad2day]

it looks like my situation will take a new turn today if not very soon. Looks like he is moving- 12 weeks after the bomb

Most people have kids that are on this site. Any DB'ing advice for thoses of us with no kids? How do we DB? They won't "see" any changes. There is no reason for contact.

[MrBond]

VS2D what changes have you made?

I mean, many on here have said not to interact with your H when he is snarky to you, but you do it anyway. And on top of that, you add additional comments that dig the hole deeper.

Right now a S would be good. Not for your H, but for you. You have to learn to not react when he starts pushing your buttons. It's hard, but if you can't do that, you won't be able to show any "changes".

[verysad2day]

I think you are correct, yet painful. ???? How do you DB when they are out of the picture?

[Queen_of_Swords]

You try to make every contact a good and friendly one.
The recommendation is to treat them like a sibling.
If you wouldn't do it with a sibling don't do it with them.
Be upbeat, cheerful and don't talk about relationship.

It isn't easy. If you're good at acting... Go for an Oscar.

[verysad2day]

"The recommendation is to treat them like a sibling.
If you wouldn't do it with a sibling don't do it with them."

I am real low today. I need some hard examples of what this means.