I'm new here too and I can SOOO relate to focusing on every little thing they do--hug, no hug, smile, no smile, email, no email. It is COMPLETe crazy making. I, too, am trying to detach. I feel ridiculous with all of the mind games and the unnatural feeling that I can just be myself with this man who has been my best friend for 20 years. One thing I've had some success with is I try to have music (upbeat) playing when he gets home to get myself in a happier place and to also make him think a little bit. I am a total mess as well. all I can say is I feel your pain...
