Bond u have given the best advice and thanks for shocking me back to reality. I come on here and vent instead of going to her and if we reconcile, i will continue to come here and vent for some reason it makes me feel better and doesn't cause a riff between us. I was just wondering why for two weeks she was all about me now she has backed off. Is she testing me or what does it mean. I think her ask me the other night if something made me mad is cause she was expecting me to blow up when she said she had a paper to do and couldn't go away for the weekend. I have to remember baby steps i know and dont expect to much to soon. I think she is curious about the new me but still isn't it convenienced its permanent so she pulls away after being so what close to see my reaction.
I'm not one to give advice, but that is definitely pursuing.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Send her something that compliments something other than her looks. AND don't EXPECT a response in return.
In your case, a little of the right pursuing is okay. You've baited your W back to a certain degree, now it's time to slowly reel her in.
There is nothing wrong with the right pursuing at the right time. There are so many people on here that believe the DB rules are strict and to the letter. That you must NEVER pursue, etc.
That's true only in the beginning to settle the waters. Once things are calmer, and you see positive signs, that's when you can add a little pursuit.
But pursuit with no expectations.
Maybe she's pulling back because she saw some thing that triggered a memory in her about how you were before. That's why the changes you make in you need to be real. Not faked.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
well nothing much new. she did text me Saturday and ask if we decided to go out for st patricks day which i told her we hadn't decided. the she text and ask what time our sons baseball practice was today which i told her 7 pm. she responds saying ok im coming. she never comes to practice so who knows.
