Our situations are getting more similar by the day. Your wife is now in the same position as mine. She does not want a divorce but at the same time does not want to work on the marriage. They have left the marriage emotionally and are simply trying to make the best of a situation that they do not want to be in.
Although not ideal from our perspective, it does give us the opportunity to show that we have made permanent changes to who we are and maybe over time they will take down the emotional wall that they have built up. Our challenge is to stick with the plan as painful and as frustrating as this maybe.
I am not sure what is more painful, going through an actual divorce or having to spend the rest of our married life living as roommates. I am committing to the roommate option to spare my children from having to go through the divorce process. Its not what I want, but I feel that I owe it to them and my wife to make a personal sacrifice for what I hope is the greater good.
Focusing on my kids and myself is the plan of action going forward. It does get easier each day as I learn to cope with what is not an ideal situation. I do question myself on a regular basis. As I said to my wife when she said that she didn't want a divorce, "This isn't living".
My wife and daughter are going away on a trip for 6 days starting this Friday. I am really looking forward to my wife being away. It will be a nice break from the day to day pressure of the current situation.
