Another New Day

[MrBond]

Confronting isn't for everyone. Again it's part of DBing. Do what works. Also it depends on HOW you confront. If you start threatening the guy, then you're going to get into alot of legal hassle. Reminding the OM that your W is still married is another thing.

But again, it's up to the individual. I knew how manipulative the OM was in my case and did something about it. And lets face it. In your sitch, the OM is VERY manipulative.

Either way, you're going to have to see things from your W's POV. There comes a time and a place where you can start making demands as to what you want to her, but she's not ready to be receptive. Just do what you want. Be the change. Be the better man.