I think that's what I was saying Bond (referring to Busting and Nine's posts). In my sitch, confronting OM at the beginning was a huge mistake. It PISSED my W off to no end... in fact, in may have been the nail in the coffin of the PA bc at that point it was only an EA.

I just think that there is a huge risk of confronting OM when your W is not committed to the M.

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce