You are not learning from observing your own interactions with your wife, and what works and what DOESN'T work.
Notice this:
Originally Posted By: ninelives
She says she needs to go slow and that I pushed the issue and she said things she wasnt sure about.
I say then Ok, where do we stand in this. I will give you all the time you need but last we talked you were coming back 100% and that you were ending it with OM, etc..
She backpeddles . . .
. . . and then compare it with this:
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I then let go of the rope and say, if you have strong feelings for him, then see where it goes and forget about half a$$ed attempts at recon. I say lets just move on.
She then draws forward and says things like , NO, please , we owe it to our family to see if we can be together and that she knows that she can be without OM.
Instead, you foolishly go back to your needy, pursuing, clingy ways:
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I foolishly ask her what the hell is the attraction to him. He is a zero.
etc.
This made you appear weak, and attacking the OM only made your wife rise to his defense.
Please go back thru your own posts, and try to observe what has worked, and what hasn't. If you'd just truly let her go, I believe she would pursue you like crazy.
