Thanks Being Me. I talked to my mom yesterday in the hospital chapel about the service. She mentioned she wasn't putting an obit in the paper. She said she just didn't want a whole bunch of people who havent' seen him in years dropping by to tell us what a great guy he was. I said "I don't need anyone to tell me that, I know it" She wants to cremate and I said that was fine, I just didn't want to be there when they did it! I saw my FIL cremated years ago without knowing ahead of time that's what was happening. In HK they just pull everyone in from the chapel after the service, toss the casket and flowers into the old furnace and everyone watches! I was a little freaked not knowing that was what was gonna happen. Anyway, Mom feels a small memorial service is enough, she said "we've all been through so much the last three months, I don't think any of us have enough left for some big service nor is one needed." I agreed. Sister wants an open casket but the rest of us are against it, she feels there may be people who want to pay their last respects but haven't been able to see Dad. I said anybody who hasnt' been able to see him or even call him in the last three months really doesn't matter, in my mind" Hey,those who cared came, simple as that. Anyway, peace will come to him soon.
wii I'm sorry about your co-workers, people can be very "odd" at times, you may be right, they dont know what to say, but I dont find that an excuse , a squeeze on the shoulder or hug would be nice..if its hard to say it, write it, cards can be comforting also you do learn who is important in your life during these times, last month my dad had a heart attack, i knew my real friends would be asking me non stop- i found out who was caring by emails and FB comments who asked and acknowledged - then i was a little surprised at a few friends who never once asked.. I try not to judge them but like you a bit hurt. I will remember it tho and now have a different outlook.
Again you are a great guy, and no surprise as your dad is a wonderful man, apples falling from trees and all, I am sure you and your family being there is bringing him a lot of peace and you being there is a big comfort to your mom. love, prayers and hugs to you all ((( Wii)))
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
Things are what they are! Today my friend from work returned from a five week vacation and we had a good talk about things. It felt so good to have someone around to talk to again! My Dad was pretty down yesterday, he said "I'm completely useless. I'm getting tired of this game. If they can't cure me then what is the point in lying around here" I know Dad...I know. I pray that the Lord takes him soon, enough is enough. He can barely talk anymore...what's left in this life for him. Luv U Dad.
I know it's hard to watch him linger like that. His time will come soon and you will be thankful for all the wonderful talks you had while he was with you.
Prayers for peace.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Thanks EH! Yesterday Dad was having a ton of visitors so I thought it a good opportunity to take a bit of a rest break and go to a Tai Chi class that is at a church not too far from me. Did I call ahead? NO. So, I get there and find it was cancelled due to March break. I guess I could have watch Mega Mind with the Youth group...they did have popcorn. Maybe another time. I went home, did some Yoga, ate too much and went to bed at 9:30pm. Today I'm leaving work at noon, picking up the kids and going to visit Dad. He was apparently much better yesterday and when I phoned his voice sounded much stronger. You never know from one day to the next anymore, that's the nature of the beast (Cancer...not Dad!)
