Ah, don't go from feeling sorry for yourself to projecting it onto her.
Your chances improve if she is having a bad time after having left. I am not saying relish her struggling, but accept that those are the natural consequences of her decision.
Your job is to make leaving seem like the worst decision she has ever made, and coming back the best thing she could ever do.
The best way to do that is to live the best life you can. It doesn't hurt to let her know all the cool things you are doing. Dont always invite her, but maybe once in a while if it's something you know she would want to do tell her "Im going to take kid to do xyz, if you wanted to come along, I dont mind."
Underlying message: I am going to do this fun stuff (living my great life) you can come along if you want (indifference, a gift to her if she chooses to take it, her loss if not).
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
