Went to pick up our son from my wife's. After I loaded our dog in the car (it was raining pretty good tonight) and was helping our boy out the front door, I looked at my wife and said, "Have a good, safe trip, okay?"
She didn't make eye contact with me and basically sarcastically said, "Hmmph, okay", said goodbye to our son, then shut the door behind us.
I guess she's still reeling (and pissed) from yesterday. Or maybe she's done in her mind.
This will be her first medical convocation (convention) since our separation. Her friends will probably be trying to hook her up with her peers or practicing doctors, or maybe she'll be the one proactively looking out for one. They usually have one night (Friday/Saturday) where they all go out to drink, dance and party. And I know my wife will be dressing up sexy for that. And I know guys will be hitting on her left and right.
I'll find out how I feel by the end of the week. Pray for us. y'all.
Her friends will probably be trying to hook her up with her peers or practicing doctors, or maybe she'll be the one proactively looking out for one. They usually have one night (Friday/Saturday) where they all go out to drink, dance and party. And I know my wife will be dressing up sexy for that. And I know guys will be hitting on her left and right.
Don't ass-u-me ANYTHING!!!
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
Not sure if it was intentional, but I like how you typed 'ass-u-me'.
On a more serious note, what I do know is my wife DOES like to dress hot and sexy whenever she goes out to party. And I also DO know she gets attention from men. Before the separation my wife would always tell me about those things, so I know they do happen.
Totally agree with Sandi on the communication skills. This is perhaps the single biggest challenge to overcome.
To me it is all about self-control. If you are getting drawn into an argument, you are not controlling yourself.
You can develop better self-control by implementing very specific strategies in conversation.
Say as little as possible. Validate her complaints. Back yourself (do not apologize for things you do not agree with). Gently enforce boundaries you have set for yourself. Do not go on the attack/blame. Do not intiate R talk.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
Nothing much actually. I have been having a whole caboodle of fun with my boy for 5-plus days while my wife is out of town. And I've been keeping myself focused on churning out awesome development work at the office. Thanks for checking up, Mike. Not much in a way of DBing
