Journaling: Yesterday While I was at leagues I received a call from our D. She had been invited to diner with one of the SILs. The SIL wanted me to come to dinner also.
I explained I was at leagues, and would not leave unless it was an emergency. I told our D that the SIL could have just as easily call me directly and should not have filtered this invitation through her. I would be happy to visit with SIL and her children. I have been a father figure to this niece and nephew since they were born.
I shot poorly at leagues, the call and an email from my L kept me from relaxing and focusing on form.
After I arrived home our D stopped by and we spoke about mundane things until she started to vent. The SIL had called her from her car trying to pull the dinner invitation together at the last minute. Our D volunteered to make arrangements with me. She, this SIL and her family understood I was in a GAL activity and they were not disturbed I could not make dinner with them. It was a good thing I did not go to dinner as the dinner conv turned into rants about this sitch. When she finally spoke about it our D was very upset. I found myself attempting to calm her down and maintain my own composure.
This SIL, FIL, MIL have all spoken to W when she has been less than rational. Apparently W wants the SIL to start a R with me. This SIL was 13yrs old when I married her sister. She has been more like a little sister than a SIL. She has stated on more than one occasion I have been father and older brother to her. W’s suggestion is reprehensible. This SIL is very angry about it.
FIL and MIL think W is making a mistake and do not understand why she is acting out like a teenager. W and MIL have not been close since before W ran away from home at 18. Generally speaking W will resist contact with her mother and is likely to not follow a suggestion she makes. The strained relationship W has with her mother has not lent itself to establishing a relationship between us.
Apparently sometime last month W attempted to begin an A with her old HS crush through FB. He has blocked her. Our D thinks W pursued him to the point of cyber stalking and his W found out. Pure speculation I know. At least it is not my speculation. Strangely I feel numb regarding this. I just don’t care that she was attempting to start something. I don’t know if what that means. The way I understand societal norms I should have some emotions here.
Our D also said her brother and his wife (S and DIL) have distanced themselves from W because of the drama. They don’t know how to approach me. This disturbs me, but I need to wait on contacting them until I know S has cell service. DIL and I do not have a relationship and I suspect everything we talk about may get reported to W despite the “distance due to drama”
So it appears W’s support structure with the exception of her aunt and two cousins is crumbling. None of this matter much at this point as the aunt is providing supports and shielding the sharp edges.
The D continues. The latest correspondence between the Ls is about determining the value of the house. We need to pick an appraiser.
Maybe I should shift to a thread in MLC referencing the old threads here. I get lost when I read some of the posts in MLC.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
