You are on a rollercoaster ride and your emotions are going to be all over the place at times and that's ok. Don't beat yourself up about it.
What I've realized within my own sitch (and with some wise BITS advise) is that us LBS's are in a diff place emotionally then the WAS's. We are actually going thru an emotional phase of what they have been going thru while they were M to us. We were just to blind to see it. We can only hope that one day, both the WAS and LBS can get back on the same page.
That is going to have to happen thru reconnection and not reconcilation. I am a firm believer that reconnection has to happen first. It has to scraped down to the bare bones again. It won't work if you try to pick up where you left off.
Us LBS's have had to learn a tough lesson but the bigger piece is that we have learned it. Think about how many people out there are still stuck scratching their head as to why?
Stay the course! BITS rule!
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
