I'm in two camps on this so I'm just gonna think and write out loud here for a minute to see if I can help...
Years ago, I was in another relationship with a woman who I loved. Although we were never married (could never come together on our vows), we had been together 15 years and had 2 kids together.
One day she started a physical "affair" with another man. The reason I put affair in quotes, is because at that time in her mind we were done.
It was only in my mind that our family was not done. In her mind, there was nothing left to save.
Still, I confronted the OM. He was twice my size, half my age...and there was no doubt in my mind that if it came to blows I would have fought him to the death and would have been victorious in the battle...
But I still would have lost the war.
She eventually dropped that guy and moved on to find another she has now been with for nearly 7 years.
And I eventually realized I was light years happier without her. Now many people told me I was better off without her, but there was no way I could believe it at the time.
I am not suggesting you are better off without your wife, but now that I think about it you are better off without the drama.
Sorry Bond. You gotta pick your battles. It would be a different story if the wife was committed to the relationship. Then, yes. Fight and protect and support the family until your death.
Otherwise, there are better ways to support your wife, clearer ways to draw your lines, and stronger ways to be a man other than beating the sh*t out of some snotty little predator.
Islander that guy's just the hired help. Think of him as being on your payroll to help educate your wife.
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
