Hank, that was a very good job! That one little humorous note to D was a string to pull her closer to you. W also used the same string to contact you. The think I'm most proud is that you left it alone and didn't respond back, trying to continue to ride on it until it killed the moment.
Good job the way you responded to W!!
Now, a word of caution.....Please, please do not get worked up until you are nervous or excited about having dinner with her. Just go, stay cool, calm, and confident and don't react to anything she may say. Don't make any references to the MR. If she should hit you with something that sets you back.....don't react. Just tell her you'll have to have time to process.
Hopefully, it will just be a nice dinner, but I feel she has a reason behind it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!