Originally Posted By: lostmiss97
Sorry to keep going back and forth... it's a mess in this brain of mine... (
LM, I am relatively new here. I think this refers to the 6 stage of MLC and how some people repeat stages until they are able to leave a stage behind.

Originally Posted By: lostmiss97
Sorry to keep going back and forth... it's a mess in this brain of mine... (
If he’s in a MLC (sorry TG) then his brain is probably a bigger mess.

TG, Truegritter posted something in my first thread that I hope you can glean from.

Originally Posted By: Truegritter
MLC or sh!tstorm crisis in your M?

Call it what you want it makes no difference and it not an excuse to be a victim of bad behavior.

It may explain the behavior and that is all so the situation is you have a crisis in your M.

Look in the mirror and own up to your part.

I see you doing that. Your R with your W evolved into a codependent one where you saved and protected her from herself.

That doesn't work as you know.

She feels inferior and loses her own self esteem and begins to resent you.

You get angry when she doesn't make better choices...

Then

She will seek someone else who doesn't make her feel that way and the cycle starts all over again...

Until.

She looks inside herself and takes responsibility for her own happiness and stops blaming everyone but herself.

Until that happens for her it will only mean more of sh!tstorm for you.

So what are you prepared to do in your life while she figures this out...

because she will or she won't on her own time.

Yours?

Is your choice.

I can only tell you that the time I have given to my own situation has been a gift to myself.

I have found answers to questions I would not have even known to ask if I hadn't chosen to give time to this process.

BITS
Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill