The benefit is that he backs off and stops playing mind games with your W. Again this is your W we're talking about right? YOUR W. There comes a time in a man's life when he needs to start protecting his home from predators.
Again, I'm not saying that you need to get violent, etc. He is an intruder going into your home. He's not doing anything to respect your M or your W's feelings.
"He is only worried about himself." Which is why you tell him to leave YOUR W alone. Because you care and worry about her.
DO NOT go and have another talk with her. You will lose. Your W is in the middle of a tug of war between you and the OM. YOu have the upper hand because you are married to her. Stay friendly with her.
If you can't do that, then you will fail. No one said that you had to act like everything is okay. Show her your concern for her. Show her some compassion. Going over and saying "you better make up your mind or I'm gone" is not going to work. She would go to the OM because he doesn't force her to make a decision. It has to be done of her own free will. She will go to the one who she has the most emotional connection to.
The OM is just playing the pity card. It's time to deal that card out of the deck.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
