Harrier, my wife does not deal in emotions, hates discussing feelings, will not discuss the past, has not interest in sharing old stories, will not plan too far into the future. She live in the almost completely in the present - and since the past and future don't really exist for her she has a hard time seeing or considering the effects of her actions. She also says she doesn't make or worry about keeping promises. Took me a long time to understand, but she is an ACOA, with a mom who was not only an alcoholic but also has a mental illness, like others in her family. As best I can tell she had to cut away this part of herself to survive when she was maybe 14-20 years old. If any of this sounds familiar - it may not - I can suggest a good book. Sort of a shot in the dark I know.....
