I know that none of this is easy. If it was, we would not have a 50% D rate.

I am sure your H would say he is fine, my W would say the same. But all we have to do is look at their actions, not their words, to know this is not true.

I TOTALLY get your confusion about what this DB’ing is all about; I still battle that is well. I guess for me, the things I am doing would not change even if I new 100% that my M could not be saved. In this case, there is no sense of sacrifice or frustration. Yes, my ultimate goal is still to save my M, but that goal is WAY to far off for me to even think about right now, this is probably true for most of us.

I guess it is a weird balance between living in the present without losing site of the future.

You post fantastic quotes in your other thread, don’t forget them. I know many have been inspirations for me.

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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.