OK, maybe you took me too literally on the time thing. Yes, we have a fixed amount of time on this earth, but the time we have to do the things we want to do are only capped by that ultimate limit. Don’t rush this, all I am trying to say.
Our S’s have already emotionally divorced us, if you are already doing the things you want to be doing, I just don’t see a reason to speed up the legal divorce. I don’t think it is the right focus to have right now.
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I don't think I can continue to care about someone that has so little regard for me that I'm treated as a stranger. I don't expect him to change his mind or his heart. Not with those shark eyes.
He's rocking that baby called resentment and hanging on to it and feeding it IMO.
Detachment is preached here. Don't care, don't let the WAS ruffle your feathers, just continue on like they don't matter, don't let your feelings get the better of you.
Detachment is preached here, but it is for a reason. I may be wrong, but to me it sounds like you are letting all of your H’s negative energy bring you down. That is what you need to separate. If you truly focus on you, and let him go, this negative energy will no longer be your concern. And with a more peaceful mind, patience will follow. This will no longer feel like such an agonizing ordeal.
You may ultimately get to the point where you no longer do want to work on the M, even if he did come back you would not take him. But that will be a feeling of peace, not a feeling of anger or resentment.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
Yes, we have a fixed amount of time on this earth, but the time we have to do the things we want to do are only capped by that ultimate limit. Don’t rush this, all I am trying to say.
