A New Day?

[Denver_2010]

Okay Islander... you recognize your mistakes and this is good.

You backslid from what got you to a point of positive progress.

Now go back to doing what worked. That is the number one rule of DB. DO WHAT WORKS.

The good thing is this, in my estimation, ... the mistakes that you have made are probably not fatal to your efforts. She was questioning her choices last week ... I highly doubt that the pressure that you applied will kill the emotions that caused her to question. It will make her doubt her conclusions, but it will not kill the emotions.

Those emotions are love and shared experiences with YOU. It is these emotions that will bring your W back... if she is to be brought back.

BUT you have to let these emotions occur naturally within your W. Nothing you say or do will cause this to move any faster towards your goals... but what you say and do can slow progress and/or destroy it.

Tread carefully when you see positive progress... You must continue to apply DB...

PATIENCE and TIME man...

This does not change. Your W needs to time to figure it out on her own.

Let her.

BITS
Denver