First off I hope any friends or family in Japan are safe. Such an incredible disaster.
My time on this forum has been dwindling as I both try to get back to my life and also get busier at work.
Weekend out was fun, but as per normal with me I drank far too much and made a fool of myself (that's part of why I had stopped drinking). At the same time, I appeared to catch the flu virus that my W and D6 have had over the last week, and I spent the entire night on Sunday vomiting.
My sitch seemed to take somewhat of a positive turn for me, in the fact that my W came to me to tell me she understands that she cannot afford to go it alone. Although she still has not interest in "trying" with us. She says maybe that will change, but that she doesn't know how that will happen. She says we can just "live the same as we have for years" until the kids grow up and move out and then we can figure out what to do.
I don't see how she really believes that, and it makes me wonder if she is being honest. She has been talking about selling our house and downsizing so we can remove some stress and financial burden while spending more money on fun. I like this idea, it feels like the right thing to do.
As a friend of mine said, "She feels trapped." Can I make her feel confortable in a sitch like this? I'm trying to be supportive and listen to her, but I worry that she has another motive.
Regardless from my perspective it feel like a lot less tension, I feel like she is talking to me more regularly (mostly about everyday stuff), but I'll take what I can get. I'm trying to be respectful of her, and let her find my way back to me. I also feel like we are somewhat in a stage of piecing?
Anyways, I'm not sure if anyone is still following - but I'll continue to journal and read other stich's and comment as time allows.
I hope all of the BITS are doing ok.
SIC
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
