The Lies and Deception Killing Me

[Yoyowife]

Abbey,
Please get the book I suggested to you. Living in limbo can be the hardest thing. Only you can decide what to do. I held on way too long, but I will never feel like I didn't try. Sometimes marriages succeed and sometimes they don't, but only you can decide what is best for you. Both partners have to be willing to work on it.

My story first began in Oct. 2006 when H left after 20 years of marriage and two teenaged daughters. I was not aware at first, but found out he was having an affair with his secretary who left her husband. H filed for divorce June 2007. Everytime I would withdraw from him, he would pursue me. I would get comfortable and fall back into the old patterns again. In 2008, he called off the divorce saying that we could work it out. Keep in mind he never moved back into our house.

Finally, I decided I could not put up with his cake eating anymore. I made up my mind I would divorce him. It was my daughter's senior year and I wanted to devote my energy to her. I just avoided him. I filed for divorce when she graduated in 2009. We had a business. It was a lengthy divorce figuring out the settlement. It was final June 2010.

Yes, I mourned the death of my marriage. I mourned that my daughters would have divorced parents. Once I made up my mind that he was not going to give up the affair, I got stronger day by day.

I dated casually for a while. It was nice knowing that at the age of 47 I still had it...lol. I am now dating a friend from college. We reconnected on facebook. He is the best thing that ever happened to me. It is so nice to know that he loves me for me and I don't have to compete for his attention. We have been together for 6 months now. He is a true gentleman. It is never too late to find love!

I am not by any means trying to tell you to end your marriage. I believe in marriage and had hoped it would be forever. I just want you to know that no matter what you decide, you are going to be okay. In the meantime work on being the self assured, strong Abbey.

Hugs, Yoyo