I am not sure how good my insight would be, but my thought is that the R with OW is not going well at all, and he may be testing the water with you. But, he may also be seeing if you will pursue him and/or talk bad about OW. Be very careful here, you are walking a tight rope. Stay neutral and detached at this point. I hope this helps, and I hope your luggage gets to you soon!
Blessings!
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.