I think all of us LBS want to initially try and fix the problem of the wife leaving. We make changes and do things that we hope will make them come back. Overtime we need to understand that the changes are for us. I am now just at the point where this is starting to sink in. My changes and actions are now for me. I never want to go back to being the person that caused this mess in the first place. Whether my wife wants to come back or not is up to her. You are getting great advise her about needing to stop doing things for her vs just doing them for yourself. You are making great progress, you just need to take it to the next level, you.
