Let Us Be Outstanding Together - 2

[Busting Mode]

I hear and appreciate what you all are saying.

Here's is my first revision:

Beckie,

I know you have been saying you want me to sign the papers and I understand you are not feeling happy or complete inside.

I agree you must do whatever you need to do to be happy with yourself. As I have already told you, I will not stand in the way of your happiness or you doing whatever you need to do.

As for myself, I am still your husband and so I am still committed to being the best husband I can be.

The only challenge is right now I have mixed feelings about what that really means to me.

Part of me says being the best husband means letting go completely and giving you everything you ask even if it hurts me.

Part of me says being the best husband means being firm and strong and always standing by your side in times of trouble and uncertainty.

You have asked me what I'm thinking and so I'll tell you these days it's seems I've been feeling a whole lot more and thinking a whole lot less. <speaking her language here>

Everyday I am feeling more aligned with my heart and that feels really great. It feels grand, actually. Special, special extraordinary. <her words here again>

So now I can freely tell you that right now my heart is still being pulled in opposite directions.

And just like you've been feeling, right now I am simply wanting certainty one way or the other.

I have realized that for me, there was just way too much uncertainty in our relationship for it to continue as it was.

It's now really clear there was too much fear, too much insecurity, and too many broken promises coming from both of us for either of us to be happy.

I believe our fears led to clinging, are clinging led to stubbornness, and our stubbornness led to our unwillingness to work together. <her stubbornness is her biggest agravation about herself>

In my session yesterday I had the most amazing breakthrough.

I discovered how something that happened to me as a child had been negatively impacting the relationship of every woman that I have ever been with. And now it is simply gone. The counselor helped me see it in a completely different way, and now I am finally free to relax and be myself.

Perhaps we can talk about that some other time if you are interested, but for now, I have set up a counseling session for you on monday march 21st. The counselor's name is <name> and at <time> you can call her directly at <number>.


I am certain that having a professional, competent adviser helping each of us find our way, will make it easier for both of us to truly understand each other and remain the best of friends. Regardless of whatever happens in the future.


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Guys?