My advice on the dating thing is an emphatic NO!!!
It's not fair to ANYONE; you, your STXW, your daughter and the person you may get involved with. Settle into your new life, the new you and be the example your daughter needs.
You will know when you are definitely ready to get out there again.
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
My advice on the dating thing is an emphatic NO!!!
It's not fair to ANYONE; you, your STXW, your daughter and the person you may get involved with. Settle into your new life, the new you and be the example your daughter needs.
You will know when you are definitely ready to get out there again.
When I say dating...I just mean going out and having fun..Not getting serious at all.
It's funny you say be an example your daughter needs...She has dates EVERY night! LOL In fact, she had 2 last night and didn't come home. I'm sure I'll see her tonight and can ask how it went.
Brian, As hard as it may be, it sounds like her thanking you for giving her space may be one of those small positives. Myself, I just keep hanging on to 'It is not over until I say it is over.'
Meanwhile, it sounds like you are doing the right things. Continue on the GAL. You will invariably come out the better person through this if you do.
Well...She never came home last night from painting her apartment. Today is moving day for her. I have a feeling that the OM will be there to help. I know today is going to be hard on me but I also know tomorrow will be a wonderful day. With her out of the house, I can truly work on me without distraction.
I was going to make me a chicken breast last night and was looking for my George Foreman grill. I couldn't find it. I text W and she text back that she thought she bought it and took it with her. I told her that I bought it and that I was upset that she didn't get with me about what she was taking with her. I told her to keep it and that I would buy a new one. Her next text was one of anger about how I was so worried about a $30 grill when I am keeping the gas grill. Even thought I was angry, I told her that I wasn't angry about the GF grill it was that I just wish we could have talked about it all before hand. I also said I don't know why she was getting angry (trying to diffuse the sitch). I wonder if that is why she didn't come home.
My advice on the dating thing is an emphatic NO!!!
It's not fair to ANYONE; you, your STXW, your daughter and the person you may get involved with. Settle into your new life, the new you and be the example your daughter needs.
You will know when you are definitely ready to get out there again.
Well, just because she is acting out like a rebellious teenager, doesn't mean you have to as well. 2 wrongs don't make a right.
When I say dating...I just mean going out and having fun..Not getting serious at all.
It's funny you say be an example your daughter needs...She has dates EVERY night! LOL In fact, she had 2 last night and didn't come home. I'm sure I'll see her tonight and can ask how it went.
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Well, just because she is acting out like a rebellious teenager, doesn't mean you have to as well. 2 wrongs don't make a right.
That's what friends are for....to go out with and have fun. You don't have to date to do that.
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Well...She never came home last night from painting her apartment. Today is moving day for her. I have a feeling that the OM will be there to help. I know today is going to be hard on me but I also know tomorrow will be a wonderful day. With her out of the house, I can truly work on me without distraction.
I was going to make me a chicken breast last night and was looking for my George Foreman grill. I couldn't find it. I text W and she text back that she thought she bought it and took it with her. I told her that I bought it and that I was upset that she didn't get with me about what she was taking with her. I told her to keep it and that I would buy a new one. Her next text was one of anger about how I was so worried about a $30 grill when I am keeping the gas grill. Even thought I was angry, I told her that I wasn't angry about the GF grill it was that I just wish we could have talked about it all before hand. I also said I don't know why she was getting angry (trying to diffuse the sitch). I wonder if that is why she didn't come home.
She didn't come home because she's acting like a rebellious teenager and didn't want to have to deal with you whom she seems to view as a parent figure more so than a S.
Just MHO....
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Uggghhh...Her daughter called me because W wanted to talk to me. She told me she wasn't going to be able to get everything today. THAT [censored]!!! I need her to be gone so I can continue my healing. She is off tomorrow and Friday. I hope she can get it all while I am at work. Besides, one of her friends asked me to the hockey game tomorrow night.
Lost 37 pounds since she told me exactly 4 weeks ago! 103 more to go!!!
Well...I came home last night to an emptier house. It was the first time in over 6 months that I didn't see my wife during the day or night. I was ok last night but now that I am writing this, I can't hold back the tears.
She just called me telling me she is going to be a little late for the meeting with the lawyer. I go to that in 45 minutes.
Just came back from the lawyer. I am an emotion wreck right now. W couldn't make it as she is dealing with Lowes installing the washer/dryer. I think it was better that she wasn't there. I am so down right now.
