Let Us Be Outstanding Together - 2

[zengypsy]

True:

Have I told you ever how much I love reading your Grit?!!

BM - I understand your hesitation to sign because I fought my D from the time my STXH said he wanted one. Like True said...MY STXH is getting this D whether I want it or not and he knows to this day, that it's not something I want. He had his mind set this is what he wanted. I really had no choice (especially in my state which is a no fault state so it could go thru with or without my consent).

What I've come to accept thru all of this is that my old marriage is dead and gone. And I'm happy about that because it wasn't working. It was beyond repair. It's almost like I've D'd myself because I'm not the same person I was in the M. I'm a better version of me, I like this me so much better. What I can hope for is that my STXH and I remain friends, that he can rebuild his trust in me as I in him and he will recognize that someday we are worth a try again. If that day comes, it still may or may not work; life is always a crapshoot, but I have a distinct feeling it now can.

The hardest thing is to let go. But by fighting the D, it is just reaffirming all the reasons to your W why staying in the M is toxic. I love this line in particular from True...I hope you find the happiness you are looking for. Go do what you need to do. You know where I will be. It says (I think) what I've been saying for a while now; you can move on with your life but you don't have to give up. How wide you leave that door open will be up to you. She's got to make a concerted effort to change some things in her life as well. She may and may not but it only takes one to tip that domino.