Today is OK

[Sanderika]

(((((Cas)))))

I have a sense of relief for you.

I am happy to read that H has initiated the dinner. It is an emerging gesture for sure. Cas, your H is changing.

I have the impression that H is proud of his cooking and for him to want to cook for you tells me that he is seeking affirmation from you on more than one level/subject. I am thinking he needs you, Cas.

This scenario will also offer up a more intimate setting for the two of you to spend some reconnection time. He is apparently not afraid to explore the possibilities.

Cas, your H is trying to work things out with you. YOU know what to do. I agree with all the ladies here. Give him time and patience and be someone to make him feel good about himself and be very appreciative of his efforts. It's kind of what I have had figured out all along.

It doesn't make it easier. It supposedly gets harder before this get easier, I have to wonder if that holds true in all situations. I think it depends on the personalities and the level of commitment to patience and forgiveness one can muster along with the stamina required to endure the drama that's still to come.

Your H has initiated so he is not leaving it all up to you...this is such a huge development. This is what you wanted him to do and he has stepped up to the plate in grand style, imo.

(((((Cas))))) sweet friend, YOU have got to leave the negative conclusions and cynicism home while with H. Practice only happy thoughts and forgiveness until you see him. Do not even once allow yourself to think about the things that hurt. To me when one dwells on the negative they begin to believe it and it will show in interactions with everyone and they will actually wear it on their face with their expressions.

You have the ability to give H a chance. If he is trying.....do this for him.

You have come too far to turn back at this point in time.

NOW....What are you going to wear???

I am happy for you,

Sanderika