I saw my therapist last night for the first time to discuss my co-dependancy issues as well as marital problems. He was extremely helpful and said that I need to take a hands off approach with my W unless it is something to do with my daughter. He also said that the sooner I do this the sooner my w's affair will end. He also pointed out that it will end and most likely end in disaster but until i am able to cut off communication with her she will continue to see me a source of pain and the OM as a source of pleasure and will only remember the bad things about our marriage as opposed to the good things. This sounds like some good advice to me so I am going to run with it for now until i can setup a phone call with a db coach.
