IB I'm sorry you're in this spot right now but having been there a short time ago, I can tell you that you may feel some relief. Limbo is a terrible place to be. When things become finalized, it's almost like you can finally breathe, even though you are still going to be grieving.
I'm not leaving this forum either even though my D is over, because XH is still up to MLC antics and still reaching out to me to, more than anything, annoy me or be insensitive, and I'm still trying to "heal" from the damage of his MLC and what that did to our marriage, so I feel like till I'm healed, I'm still going to stick around with the people who understand best what it's like to be me. I think the same holds true for you.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying