Hey islander. I know it sounds simple, but the biggest thing you need to do is relax. This change of events seems to have you all worked up again. What you do right now might be different, but the way you do it is exactly the same. Calmly, and in control. Don't let her push your buttons, push hers, the good ones.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.