Alamo, I'm new here but IMO your 180s and goals don't seem to be the problem. You had a real problem executing them when she started to push your buttons by insulting you, calling you "jerk" etc.
She has memory of the past behavior and now the credit card bill problem seems to her just like a continuation of the past.
The difference in opinion between you and W of your character is familiar. During our last (final?) MC session my wife's opinion of me was completely opposite of mine. I think it's her picking out behavoirs that support her view of me while I'm thinking of the NEW ME behaviors that I've been adopting. When I figure this out I'll tell you
Married 15 years 3 children 13, 12, 10 1st D bomb Jan 09 2nd D bomb Feb 11 I moved out June 11
