A New Day?

[islander]

So, I get home from work tonight and the first thing that I notice is that my W folded the laundry that was in the dryer. I thought that was nice bc she usually doesn't do that.

Then I notice our dog urinated in his cage, and even in her water dish...she has never done this bf and W said she came by twice today to let her out. She also said our dog is fine for about 12 hrs in the cage at her apt.

Then I turn around and notice the cat sh!t in the foyer.

I figure bf I start to clean, I will sip on my last beer and get to work....the fridge wasn't closed all of the way and my beer was not cold to say the least.

I thought about forwarding my W a picture of the dog, but then just decided to let it all go. This is frustrating for me, but what good would it do to even mention these things to her. It will not help my sitch at all.

I did notice that W took the 5LL book that I left on the counter. I told her that I would leave it there whenever I finished it. I don't know if it will do her any good, but atleast she took it.

I am just venting. Today was not a good day, but I will get another chance tomorrow.

(I have not contacted W at all today!)

[ninelives]

hang in there Isalnader. As I have mentioned to Country, it really bites how these women can toy with us like this. Like we didnt really matter to them at any point and that we are almost less than human to them.

My heart goes out to you as I know EXACTLY how you are feeling as my dearly beloved is doing the same things after a day of what, SELF PITY and despair. How can they make those promises knowing how we are feeling?

I guess they simply are on self mode and only focus on what they feel for the time being. What an awful way to go through life.

How long can this last where they are the only thing that matters?

Just venting and feeling your pain Islander/

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[♪CS♪]

Hey islander. I know it sounds simple, but the biggest thing you need to do is relax. This change of events seems to have you all worked up again. What you do right now might be different, but the way you do it is exactly the same. Calmly, and in control. Don't let her push your buttons, push hers, the good ones.

[islander]

I woke uP today and have started thinking about making contact with OM again, whether in person or by email (is email a bad idea?). I just know that if W was away from OM, she would come out of the fog in a relatively short amount of time.

I imagine I would try to appeal to whatever little bit of honor or integrity he may have. But then again, he does not have those qualities, so what would I really accomplish.

[ninelives]

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, dont do it man. Think about it Islander. Om does not give one ounce of crap about you. Appeal to what, his sense of decency. There isnt any.

All that would do is make all parties upset : especially your wife. IT would also make you look weak.

I dont know alot about things but this is one thing I am very certain about.

DO NOT lower yourself by contacting this scumbag and appealing to something he does not posess.

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[islander]

I know you are right. I just woke up very angry today and it was on my mind. I am 99% sure that I would not contact him, and I know it would do more harm than good. There is no decency in the OM.

W keeps texting me about our dog this morning (does she need to come by to feed her, to let her out more than once today, etc.). She knows how much food she brought for her, just enough for yesterday, and she knows the dog can't hold it in the cage for more than 6 hrs right now.

[islander]

W just sent a text asking why I had taken a pic of the dogs mess last night. I told her never seen a dog do that in her water bowl. She laughed and said sorry. She has no idea I was upset about it. I only forwarded her the photo so she would see on her own that she needed to come by today and let her out. But then she still asked if one time this morning would be enough.

I am expecting to much. Just venting.

[ninelives]

So ask her point blank, but in a nice way. What do you want to do about the dog? DO you have ownership of it in anyway?

If so, then I think you have to step up and do what a dog needs.

Dont Upset her needlessly IMO. But if you dont have ownership, then you are not there to babysit her dog i dont think.

Head UP Islander, we will get through this one way or another.

BTW, I think we have to start believing that we can survive without our W's in our life. We cannot give them that much power to dictate our happiness.

If they come back, GREAT, but if not. ARe we going to let them ruin our lives while they live theirs.

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[islander]

The dog is ours. She said it was too hard to keep the dog in her apt, and she did not want to get rid of her if there was a chance we would get back together bc the kids live the dog (that was last week).

She said she may try to keep the dog at her apt againonce she gets assigned to a day shift position, could be any day now.

Iwas getting to the point where I thought o was going to get throughout this either way, then inlet the events of last week suck me in and spit me out. Just going to be a tough week or two. I am back to going dark as much as lossible right now.

[islander]

It has been one week since W said she ended her A with OM and wanted to start going to C with me...now a complete pullback from her. I so want to contact her and ask her if she even remembers having that conversation with me, actually started the convo with me. I know I can't, but I WANT TO, oh well