I never did respond to the text from my W. It always feels good to do so once it passes.
"In a situation in which someone is being pushed around by another, we pity the one who is losing out and we are upset with the aggressor. We see the suffering of the loser, but we pay no attention to the greater pain that the aggressor will endure in the future from accumulating the karma of perpetrating such a vile action."
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.