Hey there SBH. I wish I was in your shoes or stage of your sitch. I had this conversation with my W, the other day. She says she notices the changes in me and started to cry about why it took me so long to do it...But the kicker was how can she even think about letting go of the OM because of her feeling for him....the so called love of her life type stuff...I am sure you have heard it before. As the vets on here say, there is a withdrawl period for her and your patients is a must. I am somewhat familar with your sitch, I will have to go back and refresh my memory. I can't offer any advice at this point but you know your W, you know that she has had a chemical imbalance for a while....But here is the deal she is with YOU now...Have you had any evidence of contact between them or is it just your feeling inside...At some point I hope to be where you are in my sitch...if so I will have to practice what I preach...Feelings overwhelm us tough guys...lol...however if you are with her and she is with you, then always communicate with her in a sensitive way about how you feel....sure there will be a few bumpy roads ahead, but if you believe that she has made the commitment to you and your M, then talk to whomever you have to to keep the momemtun going with your W. You have spent almost 22 years with her and this last period, you as well as all of us LBS, know what we did to get our spouses to this point. Even though they may have made a bad decision or two...as we all know it takes two to make a problem so to speak... I will be following this part of your sitch and wish you peace in your heart...All I can say is if at the end of the day after all you and her have been through, she comes home and goes to bged with you...You must have done many things right to get her back....So I am with you till the end...if my sitch ever gets to your point... then I will be begging for your advice...Until then my friend....cherish that woman..forever...Scott
