I really do want to do what you said, V. I have been mulling it over, especially since last week, have been actually stopping myself from just picking up the phone or getting up at night to confront him. I know I can't do it the way you say though, I would explode all over the place and it will take years to clean up my bits and pieces. All the hurt and resentment. Maybe the words would be more like "Go f**k yourself H and get out of here!"
I want to do it your way - gracefully.
The difference compared to how I think of it is just letting him be the one to decide what to do. Hmmm.
He seems to have improved in relating to me since yesterday. I will be nice and observe him in the next few days. We have guests coming tomorrow, and over the weekend, so that means no upheavals for now. We will be going to OW's city on Mar. 23-27, and I am a bit worried about that. It's for a convention, and both OW and H are not only in the same medical field but have the same subspecialty, so for sure they will see each other there. I am in the same field but with a different subspecialty, but am attanding the same convention.
How to act the next few days: I guess I shall continue with what I have been doing all the while. And as for the retrouvaille - we'll see how it goes.
We still have quite a few outings planned - April we go visit our home country with D12 for 10 days. Its also my parents 50th wedding anniversary. August we go to Europe with D12 for a week.
Itr seems so complicated, with all these planned, and not wanting to trigger D12 to get her anxiety/eating disorder.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
