I've posted some on this thread here

I've thought about calling a phone coach, but they're kind of expensive for me. The relationship with the cyber chick is so unnerving for me. He's elevated her to some sort of status where he says he can be his true self with her... I don't understand how that's even true. He's so much different from the man I was married to. He doesn't pay full attention to the kids the way he used to because he's constantly texting her. Every time they're with him he's on the phone. He used to be so involved with them. He'd go outside with them and play ball every time they asked. Now he tells them he can't. It's to the point where our oldest doesn't want to go see him on the weekends they're scheduled to be there. I know that kills him. He asks about our S all of the time. Why doesn't he see the reason behind his decision? He blames it on his living arrangements (he's living with his parents right now) because he's out in the boonies with nothing to do. It hurts me to see their relationship with him deteriorate so much, but there's nothing I can do about it.

I feel like I'm fighting against some unknown enemy... I don't know how to approach this situation and it makes me feel so out of control and lost. It was easier when he was openly angry and nasty to me... at least then he was unbearable to be around. Now, when he's around me he's either ignoring me or acting how he used to. I don't know what to expect anymore.


Me 34 H 37
M 12/97
H moved out 03/09
D 05/10
S 17 D 12 S 11