Oh, and I did talk to the Retrouvaille coordinator and explained my sitch. I said that there is a third party. She said that the way they look at it is a last resort effort, and I guess they are ready to help couples with this kind of situation as well.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go