Shine on you crazy diamond III

[Queen_of_Swords]

Dear FOBD,
I have been where you are today, and probably will be again.
This pendulum effect is bad.

You're trying to read her mind here FOBD, you do know that?

How do you know she's not saying, " This is inconvienent not to have my stuff around me when I need it." or " I don't want to bother FOBD every time I need something?"

Buddy it's about her remember?

It's just stuff in the end, material things that you can replace, it isn't her regard, her affection or her memories or any of that stuff she's burying under a veener of business-like efficiency so she doesn't hurt so much.

It's ok FOBD.

Look, I got tired of living in limbo with my WAS stuff around me. It was painful to look upon every time I walked by it , dusted it, or moved it. It felt like he was half in and half out to me, and frankly if a man is in my life I want him ALL in.

So, I took the initiative and moved it all to a storage locker. Far as I know the stuff is still in there, but after I turned over the key and rental agreement, it became his problem.

I still want to redo what was once our bedroom. Does it mean I love him any less? No. It just means I can't bear to see that room without him in it, so I need to change it so that image is replaced to reduce my own pain.


FOBD, it's not personal on her part. Really it isn't.