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islander #2139562 03/14/11 03:18 PM
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Originally Posted By: islander
Or maybe continue to be friendly with her when she contacts me, but nothing more????

I think this. Be there for her if she contacts you, but take all the pressure off.


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♪CS♪ #2139588 03/14/11 04:03 PM
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Would it be a mistake to ask her if she contacted the C today. Probably would be...


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islander #2139589 03/14/11 04:05 PM
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Originally Posted By: islander
Probably would be...

See, you already know the answer. Just don't let this get away from you, you are SO close. Just keep your cool. Remember what got you here.


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♪CS♪ #2139591 03/14/11 04:08 PM
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Your right about already knowing the answer. And I feel like I blew it big time last night, but she out right lied to me after we had a great talk and her saying she wanted to be open and honest and start working on us. I should have just let it all go


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islander #2139627 03/14/11 06:12 PM
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W just text and said she had been by the house twice today to let the dog out.

This is trivial, but should I even respond. I don't feel like I should bc it is not even important considering what has happened in the last week.

The only thing on my mind is if she called a C and is she reading any of the books she asked me to pick up for her?


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M:34 W:28
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Separated 1/16/11
ILYBNILWY 10/25/10
PA discovered 11/12/10, began about 10/1/10

I am not who I was, I am being remade, I am new...
islander #2139636 03/14/11 07:07 PM
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I am having a really rough day today. The worst day emotionally in a month or more. I feel like I have listed everything that I gained. I am fighting the urge to contact my W, and the anxiety of this is getting to me.

I really need to get some insight on whether to tell her to take the dog back to her apt.


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PA discovered 11/12/10, began about 10/1/10

I am not who I was, I am being remade, I am new...
islander #2139639 03/14/11 07:09 PM
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No man, let the dog thing go IMO.

I know the EXACT feeling your going through right now. Get out, do something. Take your mind off of it. Deep breaths, relax.


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♪CS♪ #2139645 03/14/11 07:16 PM
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She said EVERYTHING right and I got sucked in without waiting to see if her actions followed. I hope this is a warning to anybody that reads this.


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islander #2139650 03/14/11 07:35 PM
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What do you think about responding to the last text she sent me


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islander #2139689 03/14/11 09:41 PM
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I am trying to find something positive in what happened last night. I can only say that she still acknowledged she has feelings for me, which up till last week she refused to admit.

Like I said with my first post in this thread last week, I was aware that I could fall as quickly as I was lifted up. I knew it and did not want to believe it.

She has not contacted me today except for the text a out the dog, unless u count that she wanted to know if I was still playing words with friends with her and we played a couple rounds. I even thought that I should not play that with her for a couple days. I really think I have to go semi-dark with her, and only respond to something absolutely necessary.

I didnt mention it, but when she came over last night I gave her a hug, and she put her arms around me and I don't think she actually touched me. This was also a change from the previous days where she actually squeezed me. I felt like telling her to leave bc I knew what was coming. I tried to play it cool for a while until I brought up the R. Maybe i did not play it cool at all. No, I didn't.


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M:34 W:28
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Separated 1/16/11
ILYBNILWY 10/25/10
PA discovered 11/12/10, began about 10/1/10

I am not who I was, I am being remade, I am new...
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