My post last night was timmed where it fell through the crack, I guess. Don't know why unless I took too long.
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For me I did it because I felt her assumption that I would do certain things needed to be straightened out. I needed that to be a boundary. But I'm not sure if this was the right circumstance/scenario/situation to bring this up.
Well Alamo, I don't think she had a clue that was what you were doing. I didn't catch it either until I saw this statement and went back to read where you acted on what you thought needed to be straightened out. No, the boundary was not made clear, IMO. You just come off as looking like a jerk to her!
Whenever you draw the line....you need to make sure she knows where it is and what it's all about. No guess games. No assumptions.
The sick feeling you're experiencing is b/c you are not use to standing up to her and being decisive and showing confidence. The first time is hard....but it gets better.
FWIW, I think the parent that is going to keep the child, should be the one to go get him. That way, he doesn't see it as if the parent was leaving him. He would always be the one to go "bye-bye", which most kids love.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I didn't catch it either until I saw this statement and went back to read where you acted on what you thought needed to be straightened out. 
