Kevc... just FYI considering your wife is at a shelter, you might want to look here. These are all the forms abuse can take
It is in your interest to know this IMO.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showthreaded&Number=2122631&Searchpage=1&Main=48675&Words=physical%2C+emotional%2C+medical+abusie&Search=true#Post2122631

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